A wise woman in my recent workshop shared her father's advice: "Sleep with a man because you want to --not because you need him to provide food and shelter." Are the women of the Upper East Side -- as profiled from an anthropological perspective in a NYT article -- equal partners, or possessions?
Author Wednesday Martin interviewed and observed 100 'Glam SHAMS' - women she labeled as glamorous, stay-at-home-women. ("Poor Little Rich Women" NYT, Sunday Review, 5/17/15) Her conclusion:
'Married to masters of the universe, these women are a lot like mistresses - dependent and comparatively disempowered.' They often use their graduate-degree skills to raise funds and get their kids into the right schools.
What a fascinating tribe: Not my idea of feminism.
I recommend two books: Necessary Dreams: Ambition in Women's Changing Lives by psychologist Ana Fels, and Wednesday Martin's forthcoming memoir Primates of Park Avenue. Then TALK with your daughters and friends about these ideas.